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This is from Salem3times3, and I got it out of a book long ago. What it gave me was a tool to see what the effects were, (that I was Normal) , and where the behaviours came from, and the power to change them if I wished.
With Respect ...
1. Fear of being alone in the dark, of sleeping alone; nightmares, night terrors (especially of pursuit, threat, entrapment)
2. Swallowing and gagging sensitivity; repugnance to water on one's face when bathing or swimming(suffocation feelings)
3. Alienation from the body- not at home in own body; failure to heed body signals or take care of
the body; poor body image; manipulating body size to avoid sexual attention
4. Gastrointestinal problems; gynecological disorders (including spontaneous vaginal
infections); headaches; arthritis or joint pain
5. Wearing a lot of clothing, even in summer; baggy clothes; failure to remove clothing even when
appropriate to do so, (while swimming, bathing, sleeping); extreme requirement for privacy when
using bathroom
6. Eating disorders; drug or alcohol abuse (or total abstinence; compulsive behaviours
7. Self-destructiveness; skin carving, self-abuse
8. Phobias
9. Need to be invisible, perfect, or perfectly bad
10. Suicidal thoughts, attempts, obsession (including passive suicide)
11. Depression (sometimes paralyzing); seemingly baseless crying
12. anger issues: inability to recognize, own or express anger; fear of actual or imagined rage;
constant anger; intense hostility toward entire gender or ethnic group of the perpetrator
13. Splitting (depersonalization); going into shock, shutdown in crisis; a stressful situation
always is a crisis; psychic numbing; physical pain or numbness associated with a particular memory,
emotion (e.g. anger), or situation (e.g. sex)
14. Rigid control of one's thoughts process; humorless or extreme solemnity
15. Childhood hiding, hanging on, cowering in corners (security seeking behaviours); adult
nervousness over being watched or surprised; feeling watched; exagerated startle response
16. Trust issues: inability to trust (trust is not safe); total trust; trusting indiscriminately
17. HIgh rish taking ("daring the fates"); inability to take risks
18. Boundary issues; control, power, territoriality issues; fear of losing control:
obsessive/compulsive behaviours (attempts to control things that don't matter, just to control something
19. Guilt, shame, low self-esteem, feeling worthless; high appreciation of small favors by
others
20. Pattern of being a victim (victimizing oneself after being victimized by others), especially
sexually; no sense of own power or right to set limits or say no; pattern of relationships with much
older persons (onset in adolescence)
21. Feeling demand to "produce and be loved"; instinctively knowing and doing what the other
person needs or wants; relationships mean big tradeoffs (love was taken, not given)
22. Abondonment issues
23. Blocking out some period of early years (expecially 1 - 12), or a specific time, person or
place
24. Feeling of carrying an awful secret; urge to tell, fear of its being revealed; certainty that no
one will listen or believe; being generally secretive; feeling "marked" (the "scarlet letter")
25. Feeling crazy; feeling different; feeling oneself to be unreal and everyone else to be real,
or vice versa; creating fantasy worlds, relationships, or identities (especially for women:
imagining or wishing self to be male or a heroine: i.e. not a victim)
26. Denial: no awareness at all; repression of memories; pretending; minimizing ("it wasn't that
bad"); strong, deep, inappropriate: negative reactions to a person, place or event; "sensory
flashes" (a light, a place, a physical feeling) without a sense of their meaning; remembering the
surroundings but not the event
27. Sexual issues: sex feels "dirty"; aversion to being touched, especially in gynecological exams, strong aversion to (or need for) particular sex acts; feeling betrayed by one's body; trouble
integrating sexuality and emotionality; confusion or overlapping of affection, sex, dominance,
aggression, and violence; having to pursue power insexual arena which is actually acting out
(self-abuse and manipulation, especially among women; abuse of others, especially of men);
compulsively "seductive" or compulsively asexual; must be sexual aggressor or cannot be; impersonal, "promiscuous" sex with strangers concurrent with inability to have sex in intimate relationship (conflict between sex and caring, prostitute, stripper, "sex symbol", porn actress; sexual acting out to meet anger or revenge needs; "sexaholism"; avoidance; shutdown; crying after orgasms; all pursuit feels like violation; sexualizing of meaningful relationships; erotic response to abuse or anger, sexual fantasies of dominance or rape ( Note: Homosexuality is not an aftereffect)
28. Pattern of ambivalent or intensely conflictive relationships (intimacy is a problem; also focus
shifted from incest issues)
29. Avoidance of mirrors (connected with invisibility, shame/self-esteem, distrust of perceived body image)
30. Desire to change one's name (to disassociate from the perpetrator or to take control through
self-labeling
31. Limited tolerance for happiness; active withdrawal from happiness, reluctance to trust happiness ("ice-thin")
32. Aversion to making noise (including during sex, crying, laughing, or other body functions);
verbal hypervigilance (careful monitoring of one's words)' quiet-voiced, especially when needing to be heard
33. Stealing (adults); stealing and starting fires (children)
34. Multiple personality
